Great advice for my younger self
Things I’d tell my younger self.
We recently carried out a Midlife Survey* – we wanted to know how people viewed the midlife. We asked people between the ages of 35 to 55 yrs old (both men and women) a range of questions, one of which was “What advice would you give to your younger self?”. In this article pulled all the responses together to find out Things I’d tell my 40 year old self. We’re going to share their tips and advice here.
Advice for my younger self
One of the dominant themes we saw in the survey was ‘preparedness’. Advice here tells us to first acknowledge that midlife is a ‘thing’ and that learning about what you might expect, and preparing for it, is really important.
“Understand what problems people encounter in midlife. Know the signs and symptoms to look out for”.
“Be aware of what’s ahead”.
“Be prepared for change”.
“Don’t wait for midlife to creep up on you; embrace it and jump in!”
“Prepare for the sh*t to hit the fan”.
Look after your physical health
We got lots of responses about investing in physical wellbeing, here’s just a few to keep in mind:
“Easy on the sunbathing, Do your pelvic floor exercises. Keep active, Be mindful”.
“Sleep more. Exercise more at an earlier age so you don’t have “problems” later on”.
“Eat clean, train hard, meditate”.
“Get fit, stay fit! It gets harder as you get older”.
This might be easier said than done, but the words ‘worry less’ were repeated multiple times in the responses. Advice to put on the top of your list maybe?.
“Stop worrying – spend more time just enjoying life”.
“Don’t sweat the small stuff”.
“Don’t stress about what you can’t control”.
“Be kind to yourself, you’re doing your best”.
Future proof your finances
Our responses on this one were clear. Start saving, and start planning for retirement. It’s not something we might think about on a daily basis, but there’s no denying – its on the horizon. You’ll thank yourself in the long term.
“Sort our your pension”.
“Start making financial plans for your retirement”.
“Go see an financial advisor and set up savings plans early”.
Self Care isn’t selfish
Focusing on emotional wellbeing was high on the list in many of the responses. The messages here encourage us to take time for ourselves, (and don’t be afraid to ask for professional help).
“Invest in a good therapist”.
“Embrace your midlife, share experiences, don’t be afraid to talk about it”
“Take some time for yourself”
Menopause; know your stuff
This was a hot topic. We had lots of responses about preparing and understanding what the menopause was, and how it might affect you. It’s a topic that our mothers rarely talked openly about. As we can see from our survey, knowledge is power. Take it from the people who’ve been there, done that – the more you know, the better prepared you can be.
“Read up and ask people about peri-menopause. I wish I’d known more about what to expect so I could have prepared better for it”.
“Find out about the menopause to be prepared”.
“Research the perimenopause”.
Menopause Matters is a great place to start.
We had many messages of positivity. Midlife really should be a time of great hope, a time to pause and reflect, and define your own new normal. Take some inspiration, and step into your midlife power:
“Be brave. You can do anything you set your mind to. Age is a number!”.
“Follow your heart and trust your intuition”.
“Be more self confident and give yourself a break”
“Define your own definition of success. Don’t conform to others”.
“Regret nothing , even if you wish you hadn’t done it, it was right for that moment in time”
“Don’t get stuck in a rut. Try new things, seek out new experiences, never stop learning”.
Get your Work/Life balance right
Interesting, out of all our responses we had only 1 that included Work or Career advice. You can draw your own conclusions on that. We think it reflects a swing towards it’s not ‘what’ you do, but ‘how’ you do it, at this stage in our lives.
“Maintain a healthy work life balance, no career is worth sacrificing your health or family for”.
Enjoy the ride
And finally, some advice from someone nearer to 55 than 35, who tells us embrace the midlife:
“Hang on in there. Seek out what you enjoy. Know there will be highs and lows, and just enjoy the simple things in life”.
It’s great in the midlife, what advice would you give your younger self?
*The Midlife Survey. March 2020. A poll of 80 people aged 35 – 55 yrs.
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