Why a Retreat will help you Advance in Midlife
Taking a step back, pausing and retreating – these concepts are rarely seen as a form of advancement. But that’s exactly what they can and should be, says Lulu Minns, Transformation Coach, and founder of She Rebel Radio. In this article Lulu explains why a Retreat will help you Advance in Midlife.
I returned to Mexico for the first time since 2005 (when I was a trainee lawyer) as a woman in need of a different space, deeper reflection and new connections. I began the two weeks in the South of Mexico for a business retreat after which I took two flights to Sayulita for a full week yoga retreat and whilst it took me over two days to get back to London, the trip was totally worth every investment….and that wasn’t just because the world was about to head straight into a worldwide pandemic.
It was far deeper than that…..incidentally, I’ve attended retreats throughout my late 30’s and hosted them for my clients in beautiful destinations in Marrakech, Goa, Devon and in 2021, at a beach house verging into one of the best beaches in Cornwall.
Rarely are retreats seen as a strategy for growth and advancement yet it’s my intention to illustrate exactly why they ought to be and why attending retreat should be part of your midlife (and pre-midlife) strategy for advancement.
The word ‘retreat’ means to back out, move or step back and even ‘retreat’ from enemy lines. It can also mean to find a ‘safe or quiet place’ indicating that danger might be present which is something all of us can resonate with in 2020, the year we’ve all been forced to retreat in the face of a worldwide pandemic.
To move or step back can be seen as the opposite of advancement and it is – but to ‘move back or contract’ is essential before we can move forward with clarity, intention and/or to expand into a new chapter.
Our life cycle is the same as every animal (and even business) – we are born, we grow, mature and eventually we die (and possibly transform into a new life).
Yet a cycle is not a steady or linear line of constant expansion (as society encourages) but rather a series of stops and starts and something I like to consider more of as a spiral with a continuous curve both widening (and tightening) around a central point.
Reaching Midlife is when we should be deeply connected with our central point and understand who we are and what is important to us. At the maturing stage (where we are usually aged between 40 and 60) we are often engaged in a process of evaluating ourselves and our lives.
Yet to do that, we must be able to find our central point : many people become overwhelmed at midlife (and hit crisis) because they’ve lost their central point, of who they are and what they value. Instead, they’ve jerked around from place to to place trying to continuously expand without contracting, retreating and considering their next steps more carefully.
Why a Retreat will help you Advance in Midlife.
Attending a retreat allows you to step back before stepping forward and provides the following:
Different Space (Different landscape)
A different space and landscape especially one shrouded in nature gives us a chance to recharge and remotivate.
By dramatically changing our environment and landscape, we instantly change our thought processes and daily routines. When we step away from the lives we’ve already created, we can more carefully consider what does and does not feel good, what is and isn’t working.
And we can create a more fertile space for growth to plant and cultivate our new realities within.
Deeper Reflection (Deeper work)
A time of retreat allows us to be more present in the moment. There’s huge wisdom in being in the now and neither chasing or catching up with ourselves. When we are too busy and distracted with the everyday, we miss the obvious turns and directions we ought to be going in.
Cal Newport in his book ‘Deep Work’ talks about distractions being the ‘destroyer of depth’.
Being distracted means being absent and so many people spend huge chunks of their lives being absent from it.
When we are absent we create shallow lives that lack real meaning and depth. And even if you have meaning and depth, there is always a deeper place to go.
New Connections (New conversation)
Meeting new like minded people means a refreshing exchange of ideas and a change of pace for creative expression.
Essentially, we create a practice ground for finding the courage for greater creative expression in the outside world.
A newer group of people provides a safe and supportive environment to step the version of yourself you are becoming in mid life.
I like to consider age as a process of refinement – a retreat truly allows you to refine midlife – creating a life which is fertile and not stagnant, one shrouded in meaning and depth and not shallow and one supported by like-minded people.
All of these are superb reasons for why a Retreat will help you Advance in Midlife. So what are you waiting for?
Lulu is running a series of Retreats in 2021:
3 Keys to Self Actualisation Retreat (March 2021)
Feminine Success Retreat (Summer 2021)
Space and Significance Retreat (Autumn 2021)
Find out more about each retreat HERE
More about Lulu Minns
Lulu Minns helps women leaders to embody their transformations, own their personal power and create peak experiences through self-actualisation.
Founder of the She Rebel Radio Podcast, Lulu Minns is an award winning coach and expert guiding women on freedom from prestige to more meaning and significance in the work that they do.
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